In a comment to one of my posts, Radiance Project wrote:  I have yet to be able to remain powerful when I walk by a full length mirror or plate glass window. How it FEELS to me is like a sudden slap across the face, and I am always so disconcerted, that I'm unable to maintain my hi vibe. I've tried framing affirmations in advance, but they just aren't accessible to me when faced with an unexpected mirror image. Have you got any thoughts on this? Any powerful processes you've used?

What a wonderful question Radiance Project.  I know exactly what you mean and I’m so happy to share my experience on the subject with you.

I spent more of my life hiding from mirrors than I like to admit (camcorders and cameras too).  No matter what size I was . . . or if I was mid diet, post diet, pre diet (and I was always one or the other), I was never happy about what I saw reflected back at me.  Regardless how good I looked there was always the thought "for my size. . ." implied in it.  I was never content with my body or myself.

Then I read a wonderful, fun, Christian based, spiritual fable a few years ago that is very “Abe” (Abraham-Hicks.com).  The book is God on a Harley by Joan Brady.  It contained an idea that helped me forever change what I see now when I look at my reflection. 

My process was simple.  I asked my Inner Spirit to let me see our "truth", evidence of my own grace reflected back to me in my own eyes.  I asked to see my inner light now.  And I asked to see it so strongly within me that it would change how I felt about the rest of what I saw reflected back to me. 

Then I purposefully looked in my mirror, staring for as long as it took, with as much open mindedness, acceptance, love, joy and forgiveness as I could manage. 

I looked for a long time, and in fact had to do it a few times, but eventually I saw the real me smiling back through my eyes . . . loving me . . . accepting me . . . being me! 

It worked miraculously for me.  It changed how I feel about what I see when I look at myself permanently.  Now, when I look in the mirror, I see this large body which isn't in line with my desires, but I don't feel bad about it, or judgemental, instead I feel love for the physical being I see reflected back to me.

Because I also always see the face of Source looking back at me.  No matter what I look like, I see my Inner Being, my connection, enjoying this physical experience I’m offering the Universe.  I see their joy, their expansion, their fun.  It always makes me smile. 

I don’t believe it has to take as much time as it did with me.  I was new to Abe and I wasn’t as confident in my spirituality back then. 

It’s a very simply process.  Ask your Inner Spirit to guide you, and to reveal itself to you through your reflection.  Then set aside some specific time when you won’t be disturbed.  Create a loving and comfortable atmosphere (maybe light a scented candle, dress comfortable, whatever will put you at ease) and then simply stare at your own reflection in a mirror looking for the evidence of your connection to Source. 

It might feel silly at first, and you might be tempted to emotionally pick at what you see.  If that happens, don’t fret, just ease yourself back to a place of love, and ask for more help in seeing your own light.  Focus mostly on your eyes.  If you start noticing anything that distracts you, gently turn your focus back to your eyes.

Use the feelings of self love you already feel and look for what is wonderful about you.  Look for evidence of your strength, value, Grace and beauty.  You Inner Voice will reveal herself to you.  She will give you visual evidence of your connection to her. 

It will take only as long as your own degree of resistance/allowing, but she will appear, a twinkle in your eye, a warmth in your soul . . . the inner light that is you now . . . at exactly the size you are now . . . shining through. 

And as I write this, I realize that your experience might happen differently than mine.  I would still spend the time looking in the mirror, but I would be open to it happening anywhere.  For you it might be a glance in a shop window or at a traffic light as you check your mascara in the rear view.  Maybe a moment of allowing as you look up while washing your hands in the bathroom at work, laughting with a coworker.  It doesn't matter how or when, if you ask and look for the evidence, it will come.

The first time it happens it feels miraculous, pure positive love flowing out of the mirror, flowing out of your own eyes back to you.  I remember being mesmerized by my own reflection for a while afterwards. 

Then it transformed into a feeling of confidence, a comfort level of knowing I can access that beauty, that love anytime I want to, with or without a mirror. 

Now, when I pass by my reflection in a window unexpectedly, I see my physical “truth”, but it’s no where near as powerful as the Spiritual “truth” I also see reflected back to me.

I know that any frustration about whatever size I am belongs to me.  My inner being has no concern regarding my weight or size whatsoever.  She loves me now, she’ll love me thin, she is always there shining within me and through me, regardless what the scales or the label in my dress says. 

I know that Source is enjoying this leading edge experience that is my life.  Every moment of it, every aspect of it, and all I have to do is look in a mirror to see the twinkle of proof in my own eyes.

Thank you Radiance Project for asking, and for reminding and inspiring me!

Much love,
Tigerlily